Worried About Making Real Friends at Uni? Here’s What You Need to Do
We all know that real friends are hard to come by. I mean, we’ve all seen Mean Girls.
You might have left your traumatic high school friendships behind in your home town, but that doesn’t mean that you are immune to the complications of friendships at university.
1. Don’t latch on to the first friend group you find at uni.
We’ve all been there. At first it seems exciting that you’ve just made it ‘in’ to a friendship group of thirty people you know less than half the names of, but the reality is you’ve only known them for 3 days. Sure, tag along with them to freshers’ events and attempt to make meaningful friendships out of it, but know that you’re not limited to this small sample of people. Don’t be the one to suddenly proclaim that you’re all best friends. No one likes that person.
2. Get to know everyone.
Following on from the first point, you should want to get to know everyone. The more friends, the merrier. Even if you’re just acquaintances, it’s nice to have a wider social scene as well as your best friends. You can find friends from anywhere: your course, the forty-three societies you signed up to way back during freshers week, the halls you’re living in, friends of friends. Don’t just limit yourself to a small handful of friends— variety is the spice of life!
3. It’s all about trial and error.
From experience, I found it best to try and make individual friends first, then form a friendship group if you want. It’s much more organic and less forced that way — and you might click enough to actually be best friends for life, unlike what your crumbling freshers’ week friendship group chat suggests.
4. Ask basic questions.
Where are you from? What course are you studying? What music are you into? Where else did you apply? What’s your name… again? It’s nice to be able to put a profile of facts to the many faces you see around campus every day. You might start to feel like you actually know that person.
5. Smile more.
Truth is, as long as you’re a nice person and are nice to everyone, you will easily find friends at uni. University is all about being the person you want to be!
6. Do something you love.
It sounds cheesy, but doing something you love with other people who love the same thing will really help when it comes to meeting like-minded people. In my opinion, there’s no better way to find meaningful, real friendships than knowing that you’re both two peas in a pod.
7. Trust your instincts.
I mean, we’re social creatures after all. You can usually tell if someone is a kind and real friend after trying all of the above. So trust your instincts, and know that most of the time, your new friends are genuinely nice people. As long as you put in the effort to make friends, you’ll find that people really want to be friends with you, too!