24 Struggles Only Twins Studying at Separate University Will Understand
If you’re a twin whose twin is at a different university to you, you’ll understand the following things.
1. The shock horror when you first revealed you wouldn’t be going to the same uni.
For many twins, the decision to study at separate universities is bittersweet. It’s a difficult one to make even without the constant barrage of questions and opinions. Unfortunately, you will have to continuously justify your decision to your teachers, friends, family and even yourself.
2. Trying to figure out who’s taking what with them.
Every year you must go through the daunting task of divvying up all of your possessions. The problem is that they are most likely jointly-owned or you’ve forgotten who owns what. Any nerdy twins out there know that the struggle is real trying to share a PlayStation.
3. Feeling bad for your parents who now have to do two move-in trips to two different locations.
Not to mention buying twice the amount of stuff for you both to take.
4. Realising that you’re actually going to have to cope without your twin.
The summer before going to university is spent ignoring the fact that you won’t see each other for months on end, until it randomly hits you and you begin to cry over the littlest thing.
5. The strange Purgatory-like feeling when one of you is at university and the other isn’t.
You wander around the house aimlessly not knowing what to do with yourself. For the first time you are home but not truly at home. On the other hand, being the first at university is challenging. You are experiencing everything for the first time for both you and your twin, and you feel jealous when you see your family all together at home. In a strange way, you both feel left behind and detached. Deep, right?
6. Having a bedroom to yourself potentially for the first time ever.
It’s at this moment, once your parents have left, that you promptly regret watching all those horror movies and crime shows… or was that just me?
7. How quiet everything seems without your twin there.
You’ve unpacked the car, your parents have bought you a tonne of shopping to last you the entire year, you’ve said your goodbyes and you see the car driving down the street. There’s no turning back now. The first thing you notice is how silent and lonely it is without your twin around.
8. And how weird it feels to be doing everything alone now.
For the majority of twins, their whole education is spent together in the same classes, with the same friendship group and choosing the same subjects. You now have to navigate university life on your own. Make friends, meet teachers and attend inductions, seminars, lectures, societies alone.
9. Missing them at the most random moments.
Sometimes the big things are the easiest to overcome and it’s the small things that chip away at you. Mundane actions like going to the shops, or walking to and from lectures may lead to anxiety just by being alone. Find a friend to do these things with you as a substitute twin, or talk on the phone whilst you do it.
10. Never being able to find a good time for a catch-up.
It just never seems like the best time to ring for that much-needed twin time. ‘I’ve got a lecture’, ‘I can’t do tonight I’m going out’, ‘Can’t chat today I NEED to finish this essay due tomorrow!!!’ These are reasonable excuses so try not to take it personally.
11. But then when you do manage to speak to them you forget all the things you wanted to tell them.
You can’t remember that one joke or what that person said to you or the video you wanted to show them. But somehow the conversation still lasts two hours.
12. Gone are the days of being able to share your homework.
Instead of getting valuable academic advice you spend the whole Skype call trying to explain your degree and come out of it more confused than you originally were.
13. Or your clothes.
You frantically search your wardrobe for that baggy black jumper that’s super comfy but you realise it’s your twin’s. Instead you settle on wearing your black converse with those loose grey jeans and that red jumper… oh no wait those are your twin’s clothes too.
14. Missing having them there to give an honest opinion.
When you have finally decided on what to wear (aka the only clean clothes available) you can’t even ask them whether you look decent or just plain gross.
15. Promising each other not to start a new series because you want to watch it together.
You try and fail to avoid the spoilers plastered all over social media by those heartless, heartless people.
16. Being ill is a 1000 times worse.
You no longer have your own personal nurse to make you a hot water bottle or supply you with pity snacks. Instead you have to resort to FT just to show them how sick you really are. Also knowing that there’s nothing you can do when your twin is sick is pretty hard too.
17. There are so many jokes that are only funny to the two of you.
When you repeat an in-joke you had with your twin and then realise they’re not there, so you subsequently have to awkwardly retell why it’s funny which, funnily enough, tends to make any joke instantly unfunny.
18. Accidentally speaking in plurals.
And looking like a mad man with an imaginary friend.
19. It’s weird not being known as “the twins”.
University gives you the chance to develop your own identity, but for some that may be harder than it sounds especially when it seems like one is more willing than the other.
20. And it’s also weird how it feels like you’ve never really been apart when you meet up again.
By the time reading week comes around you’re desperate to see your twin. You spend months planning what you’re going to do. Instead you end up chatting, ordering take out and watching an entire series on Netflix in only a couple of days.
21. The awkwardness of introducing your uni friends to your twin.
Which is usually followed by those typical but oh so annoying questions “So, who’s the evil twin?” URGH
22. Pretending not to know the ins and outs of your twin’s friends or partner when you meet them for the first time.
You’ve never met them before but you know everything there is to know about them. Try practising your surprise faces and going over what you should and shouldn’t know with your twin.
23. Feeling like everything is even more of a competition now.
It’s hard not to compare yourselves especially since people have been doing it to you all your life. They’ve got more friends, their teachers are nicer, they have fewer contact hours, their university is better, and their accommodation too. Speak to your twin, the chances are that they feel the exact same way.
24. And finally, constantly imagining what uni would’ve been like if you’d gone to the same one.
Depending on the day, it’s either your biggest regret or the scariest thought in the world.