If You Do These 10 Things, Your Housemates Probably Hate You
Not everyone is lucky enough to go to university and just land with the best house ever in which everyone gets along. Even if it seems that way, things can very quickly turn sour. So, to help out new and old students alike, here’s a basic guide for what to avoid doing if you want an easy life in the house.
1. Leaving the washing up.
This is the most obvious one in the book, and the one we’re probably all guilty of doing at some point or another. No one wants the hassle of washing up after cooking and most of us have said the damning phrase ‘I’ll do it later’. Unfortunately, later is rarely good enough for the housemate who needs the cooking space, or the housemate whose wok you just borrowed.
The easiest thing to do in this scenario is the simplest – just do it. You don’t have to do other people’s stuff or clean the whole kitchen, but if whatever you’ve used is cleaned and gone by the time other people get there, then they will have no cause to complain about it. It’s easier to do a little bit of washing up each night than to paint a target on the back of your head over some dirty dishes.
2. Being too loud.
Now, I’m not talking about some rowdy parties here and there, or that housemate who just gabs on all the time. That’s just part of university life. No, I’m referring to that person who blasts their music at one in the morning on a Monday or the gamer who shouts at his PC when other people are asleep or working. Just because you can’t hear yourself, doesn’t mean we can’t. And the worst of all… loud sex! If you wanted to let us know that you were doing it, do us a favour and put a tie on the door, we don’t need to hear it! We all know it’s great, doesn’t make it any less cringe-worthy hearing someone else doing the nasty.
3. Skimping on communal items.
In any household, there are certain things that you need: bleach, binbags, toilet roll, etc. These things get used regularly and are things that you all need as a house. It’s only fair therefore that you all pay a bit towards them, or simply take turns in buying these items when you run out. Not everyone is so happy to do this though. There will always be that one person who just forgets to give you that £1, even though you’ve left them multiple messages on Facebook.
The other issue is when someone buys the cheap stuff instead of quality items. If you really can’t afford it, then talk to your housemates about it, but if you’re skimping on decent binbags because you bought one too many JDs and coke last night, then your housemates aren’t going to be too happy about it.
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4. Using other people’s stuff.
This should automatically be a big no no for most people, but for those of you who it isn’t: STOP NICKING OUR STUFF! Seriously, taking people’s food out the freezer when they’re not even there is just a dick move. More likely, you just wanted to take a bit of milk or cheese because you’re out, but even then, you should really ask the other person first. A quick Facebook message never hurt anybody. Even better, go down to your local corner store and buy it yourself. I challenge anyone living at university to tell me they don’t have somewhere that they can go buy milk within 15 minutes.
5. Taking all the cupboard/fridge/freezer space.
There’s nothing worse than coming home with your week’s shopping and finding there’s no place to put it because some ungracious person has stuffed the freezer with ready meals. Most students live in flats that aren’t big enough to swing a cat in, so generally living space is a bit cramped. If you’re smart, when everyone arrives, you’ll divvy up cupboard and fridge space and everyone will stick to it. But when people start to ignore this, that’s when arguments begin.
6. Leaving a mess in the bathroom.
This is important if you’ve got communal bathrooms, and let’s face it, most of us will have at some point. This is another case of no-one needs to see where you do your business so it’d be common courtesy if, after using the bathroom or shower, you give it a quick clean. You don’t need to bleach it or anything, just try to leave it as you found it. So, toilet flushed and clean, shower rinsed and odd hairs gone either down the drain or in the toilet and personal items like clothes and towels are either put back or taken with you. The next person to use the bathroom will thank you for it.
7. Being passive aggressive.
This is probably the worst type of housemate to have because every time you try and fix the problem, they refuse to listen and it just gets worse over time. Not only do passive aggressive people not care that they’re making your life a misery, they’ll refuse to even consider that they might be wrong. Key signs that you might be living with one are sticky notes complaining about one thing or another, or being blanked with no reason or cause. Classic passive aggressive phrases include ‘I know, I just don’t care’ and ‘It’s your problem, not mine’.
8. Not paying bills on time.
This is a biggy because it’s not just something that’ll make your housemates hate you, it’s something that’ll make your landlord hate you and you don’t want to go there. Paying the bills is something everyone needs to do and it’s not something that you’re going to get away with like you got away with not doing the dishes. If you’ve gone and spent all your rent money on drinking with friends, that’s your problem. An easy way to solve this is to pay rent as soon as your money comes in, whether that be loan or your monthly paycheck. It’s the biggest and most important expense that you’re going to have in your student life so you need to make sure it gets paid.
9. Being self-centred.
No one likes a housemate who talks about themselves all the time. If you’ve had a bad day, sure, we’ll listen to you, but at least ask us how we are as well – particularly if this seems to happen a lot with you. Also, a note to those more self-centred individuals: if you help your housemates and pull your weight with the cleaning and just general upkeep of the place, they’re going to have more patience the next time you need someone to vent to.
10. Staying in your room all the time.
Final piece of advice for new students (or actually just students in general): you aren’t going to get anywhere if you stay in your room all the time. You want an easy life at uni, then you’ve got to meet people and get to know them, especially your housemates. They won’t always be the best people and you won’t always like each other, but it’s much easier to ask someone to do the dishes if you know their name.
Even if you’re shy or don’t want to go partying, people will be up for coffee or a games night, just put yourself out there. So, do your best to use and get involved, because I can promise it’s the easiest point on this list – and hey, if all goes well, you might even not have to worry about anything on this list. Maybe.