10 Signs You’re Going Through a Quarter-Life Crisis
Birthdays aren’t fun anymore.
1. You’re always tired.
You have no idea how you ever survived all-nighters at uni, because now it is an actual struggle to stay up past 10pm. You get in after work, make a lousy dinner, and then you say goodnight to the world and hello to your bed. When people invite you out, you find yourself counting the hours of sleep you will manage to get in and whether it is going to be worth it in the morning. Your younger self would be ashamed.
2. And you’re bored of your job.
Although you keep telling yourself it’s a temporary situation, the truth is that you can’t see a way out any time soon. So you put up with your 9-5 routine. Yes, you laugh at your boss’ jokes, mingle with coworkers, and throw a pile of papers on your desk so you look busy and feel some purpose until you can get back home and rest.
3. You’ve started living for the weekends.
You make plans in your head of the fun you’ll get up to on the weekend, but when the time comes, all plans go out the window. You’ll be so tired that you just want to spend the day chilling on the sofa with your best friend, AKA junk food. Pressing snooze once turns into a full-blown lazy movie day and before you know it, it’s Monday again. 😭
4. And can never seem to figure out where all your money is disappearing to.
Trying to keep track of bills is a struggle. Savings are a myth. The voice in your head that keeps telling you to “TREAT YO’SELF!” is your worst enemy when it comes to shopping. Before you know it, you’ll have got a brand new plant, two of the same t-shirts, and only a measly £7.53 to last you until your next payday. Oops! What is a budget anyway?
5. You keep comparing yourself to your friends.
The urge to delete your Instagram and Facebook because somehow every Tom, Dick, and Harry around you are making their twenties look like a breeze is real! People have great new jobs, are travelling the world, getting married, buying a new house, having babies… Blah, blah blah! You can’t help but compare your path to that of others around you and wonder when you’ll have it all figured out.
6. Family gatherings have become somewhat of a nightmare.
Aunts, uncles, grandparents, distant cousins you’ve only met once before… They will all ask you questions about your ~future~ and will watch you struggle to come up with an answer. It’s in these moments you just smile and nod, maybe wince once or twice when they ask a particularly sensitive question, then go wallow in self-pity.
7. Birthdays have stopped being fun.
Birthdays are now just a reminder that you’re getting older, and being halfway to 50 is a massive milestone in itself. It feels like you should be at a point where you have your life figured out, right? You can’t help but switch on your panic mode button inside.
8. You reminisce about ‘the good old days’ often.
Most of your conversations with other people start with “remember when…” Retelling stories from your past is a daily occurrence. Being 25 years old will make you miss your high school years, back when everything seemed so much easier and you were oblivious to the life of grocery shopping and taxes ahead of you. Looking at pictures from your Freshers’ Week in your first year of uni seems like a lifetime ago as you realise how much you’ve changed. Of course the nostalgia is gonna hit you hard.
9. You have so many questions about life.
Should you just run away and travel to escape the impending doom that is growing up? When will you stop binge watching shows and become a real adult? Are you dressing too young to be taken seriously anymore? How are you going to find your real and true self? Why do you feel so unsatisfied with everything? The indecisiveness is a real struggle, and you will find yourself searching for these answers at every corner.
10. And finally, you think you’re all alone, and that this crisis will never end.
You’re worried that you aren’t making the most of your 20s because of your seemingly never ending existential crisis. You haven’t achieved half of the things you would have liked to since leaving school or uni, and it makes you feel inferior. Don’t worry, though. You’re just in the real world now. 😅