21 Struggles You’ll Only Understand If You’re a Student and Your Parents Live Abroad
Flying the nest to university is hard enough already without your parents being in a completely different country.
1. You’ve lost count of how many times you’ve had to explain why your parents live abroad since you’ve been at uni.
You get why they’re curious, but it’s the same conversation every single time.
2. And why you’re here and not with them.
3. Potentially having to move in and out of uni by yourself.
Watching while everyone else’s parents drop them off in the car like 🙂🙂🙂
4. And getting used to travelling on your own. A lot.
5. You spend a lot of time trying to arrange Skype calls.
6. And even more time being frustrated when the connection isn’t strong enough.
7. Time differences are the bane of your life.
You just know that whenever you need to run something by your mum it will be the middle of the night for her.
8. Whenever you do manage to speak to them, it never feels like enough.
9. But you still somehow manage to rack up an insane phone bill.
I feel like we only spoke for like 5 mins though?? 😭
10. It upsets you when people don’t appreciate how good they’ve got it having their parents so close.
Especially when you’re ill because not only do you not have your mum there, you can’t even call her because of time zones.
11. You spend more time at uni than most people seem to.
It’s not like you can just go home whenever you want, is it?
12. And often end up left alone whenever your housemates decide to just nip home for the weekend.
That’s nice. ☺️
13. Family group chats seem like a good idea until the amount of messages becomes a bit too much to deal with.
I currently have 60 unread messages from a group chat that my whole family is In…
— Lauren Hayman (@LaurenKelsey_) February 15, 2016
14. And you miss the days of not having to plan in advance everything you need to catch them up with.
15. The jealousy when your family go on trips without you.
Especially if you have siblings still at home.
16. And the excitement of getting home from uni to find a package of goodies from them waiting for you.
17. Resenting how much more time and money you have to spend than most students whenever you do go home.
Like, you know it will be worth it, but it’s such a mission and basically leaves you with no money at all.
18. No matter how long you’ve survived apart from them, they still sometimes treat you like a child.
19. Although the distance between you does make you appreciate them so much more.
20. Worrying about graduating because you either have to join them abroad or try to get a job and somewhere to live beforehand.
No pressure 😅😅😅
21. And accepting that it’s unlikely your whole family will be able to watch you graduate.
If at all.